Yesterday, I had a phone conversation that will haunt me for the rest of my life. Some of our dearest friends on this planet, Bruce and Ruby Pritchard, lost their treasured 18 year old daughter Kaci in a tragic car accident. Dear God, I can barely type it. This family took us under their wings in our first pastorate in North Carolina and ministered to us much more than we ever did them. Most of you have a Kaci in your life – a vivacious young woman who loves family and Jesus and for whom the world is full of promise and opportunity. We love this child so much and to think she is gone is more than I can put my mind around. This is my favorite picture of her and the boys taken a few years back. There was never a darlin’ girl who enjoyed my kids so much. The affection was completely mutual.
My favorite devotional is called Daily Light for the Daily Path. It is simply a stringing together of like verses and my ritual is to pray through each of the scriptures each morning and then journal what resonates with me. Reading yesterday’s entry, He proved once again that His Word never falls upon us accidentally:
“God raised us up together, and made us sit together in the heavenly places in Christ Jesus. (Eph 2:6) Do not be afraid;…I am He who lives, and was dead. (Rev. 1:17-18) Father, I desire that they also whom You gave Me may be with Me where I am, that they may behold My glory. (John 17:24) For we are members of His body. (Eph. 5:30) He is the head of the body, the church , who is the beginning, the firstborn from the dead. You are complete in Him, who is head of all principality and power. (Colossians 2:10) As the children have partaken of flesh and blood, He Himself likewise shared in the same, that through death He might destroy him who had the power of death, that is, the devil, and release from those who through fear of death were all their lifetime subject to bondage. (Hebrews 2:14-15) This corruptible must put on incorruption, and this moral must put on immortality. Then shall be brought to pass the saying that is written; ‘Death is swallowed up in victory.’ Therefore my beloved brethren, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that your labor is not in vain in the Lord. (1 Cor. 15:53-54, 58)
These words are balm and I would ask that you would pray them into the gaping wounds of this family and those who love them.
Also beyond coincidence, just two weeks ago I discovered Natalie Grant’s song, Held, on an old WOW cd I found in the car. Can you believe I’d never heard it? I’ve cried every single time it has played. Now, it not only speaks to my heart but from it.
Bruce and Ruby, Stephanie, Bryce, and Ryan, family and friends: We love you so much and grieve deeply with you. May the God of the Universe gently, tenderly hold you in the palm of His sovereign hand.
I am praying for this family right now. I am also praying for any family (including yours) who is suffering such loss.
Praise God for Kaci’s life. May He be glorified through her death. May her parents feel His arms wrapped around them. May all who hear this story draw closer to Him.
I heart you.
And on a totally lighter note, I was at EWomen last night and saw someone from afar that looked like you. I would be lying if I said I didn’t have to restrain myself from running to her and tackling her. Since it wasn’t you, I’m glad I didn’t make an idiot out of myself! But I miss you. Let’s fix that.
praying for all!!
oh Lisa I have been thinking of this all night and today. Thank you for this post. “When everything failed we’d be held”.
“the sacred is torn from your life and you survive”
What profound words. I am praying. I signed their guestbook. My heart grieves for them and for you!
I love you!!!
This song has been and is almost too much for me to bear, although i know ultimately it’s a song of great Hope. Blessings on you and prayers for the family. I have a girl near this age; I can’t even go there.
Oh my friend, my heart aches for this sweet family and for you. I love this song and it became so dear when a friend lost her 8-year-old son to cancer a few years ago.
Ironically, I think it was just yesterday I was thinking about your friends at church that lost their son in a car accident a year or two ago.
May God’s grace, comfort, and peace shower down on all who know and love Kaci.
I am just heartbroken for this sweet family (and yours)….SO much heartache for them. But what a comfort that Christ won the victory over death and sin…..sweet Kaci is with Jesus today and that is something to rejoice over!
Sat here and wept as I imagined their grief and pain. Praying for them. Kaci is in the loving arms of our Lord and Savior, Amen.
Oh Lisa I am sorry to hear this. She is a beautiful girl. I love the picture. I have prayed for you and her family. Thanks so much for sharing this as I know it is hard for you. Take comfort in knowing HE is with you. I love you!
I am so sorry to hear of this, so sad. I will be saying prayers for all of them, hugs to you also!
I’m so sorry. Something similar happened to me last fall. I had to sing in church, went to the christian book store to pick a song. I heard Held for the first time, bought it and was practicing to sing it. The weekend that I was scheduled to sing it, my 25 year old brother in law was killed in a car accident. I cried when I realized how God held me by imprinting those words on my heart and mind before the accident even occured. God is so faithful in both the good times and the bad. I wasn’t able to sing the song but we did use it in a video for the celebration of life service
I will be praying for you and this family.
praying for this dear family…
I’m sorry sweet friend – am praying for your friends.
Lisa, here is the story behind Held – which is also beautiful.
I am so sorry! *hugs* Praying!
As a mom who knows the song Held and this families pain all to well, I will be standing in intercession on their behalf for peace. My prayers are with all of you in this time of unmeasurable sadness and yet, knowledge she is with our Lord!
We are praying for this family, and for yours.
My heart is gripped with grief right now for this family. I will indeed pray. Even now…
This hit me hard. Yesterday (Saturday), my oldest daughter, Cammie, who is also 18, was in a car accident. She was driving and with her boyfriend. She is pregnant. They are all fine, though the nurse on call insisted that Cammie did not need to go to the E.R. (I literally posted this just hours ago…) unless she abdominal pain or bleeding.
We WILL be calling the doc in the a.m. about having her come in for peace of mind. Though her car is likely totalled and the airbags deployed, they had only minor injuries.
My heart is just aching for this family and I join with you in lifting them up to our Father. I pray His perfect peace that passes all understanding will cover and keep them.
Lisa I’m so sorry to hear this. I’m affraid it is a tragedy my family knows all too well. You go on living but you never live the same again and you never forget.
I first heard Held a few days after we buried Taylor. I was on my way to work that morning and cried all the way. It is a powerful song. I never hear that I don’t think of him. Love you and praying for your friends.
Praying for all. Wrote this for you both.
I have no words to give you, no wisdom.
Only lean this way my friend.
I will put my arm around you,
and we will walk this path together.
We will laugh and we will cry.
We will stumble and sometimes fall.
We will rise again-together.
You do not have to walk this path alone.
Only lean this way my friend,
We will walk this path together.
Under the shadow of His wings.
Thinking of you today and so glad you discovered this beautifully written song.
I pray everyone affected by this tragedy feels his embrace as he sings over them and comforts through various sources.
Still praying Lisa. I have a Kaci in my life so I have a feeling of that pain and how terrible it must be. I’m praying with you.
I love you.
Never has such deep pain brought such glorious JOY. God has shown us such miracles since He took Kaci home, that we can only continuously praise HIS name. First Corinthians 2:9 has always been one of my favorite verses. Kaci’s celebration of Life service was centered aroung this verse. Thanks for all your prayers. I read all your comments. I love you, Lisa – Kaci’s Mom
Just another reminder that none of us is perfect. I can’t even spell around.
I’ve been praying for Kaci’s family — and for you, Lisa — all week. My heart has been tender toward the grieving this week, since Thursday was the one-year anniversary of Steven Curtis Chapman’s daughter going to be with Jesus.
So many prayers. Jesus is our only hope.
My 16 y/o daughter Jae Lynn also went to Heaven 5 years ago in a car accident.
Your friends grief journey has set them on an entirely new path which will be a lifetime of loss. I am so sorry for them, and also for your loss of this beautiful girl.
Praying for peace.
Becky in Arkansas