Because You’re Mine, I Walk the Line
I mentioned on Facebook that April 7th was mine and Luke’s, (Luke’s and my? Grammar help, anyone?) Dern, let’s just say OUR, 20th Anniversary.
When we were first married, we always said that on our 10th anniversary we were going to drive Route 66 out west. In reality we were at the Ashboro, North Carolina zoo with three children in tow. I wasn’t disappointed. They were and remain the best gift EVER. Then, earlier this year we talked about taking a trip to Colorado for our 20th anniversary. We’ve always wanted to see the Rockies so we tentatively started checking into flights, etc.
The Colorado trip didn’t happen. Instead, Luke and I stared into one another’s eyes and declared our undying love for one another over a piece of Strawberry Shortcake at Cracker Barrel. Just like Year Ten something else trumped the trip. And just like before it was a A Way Better Something – an amazing gift, indeed. My friends, in the midst of the global meltdown we’ve decided to live like the peculiar, paradoxical people we are and build a house.
Lots of things led up to the decision. Most of it had to do with the fact that Luke is 40 + and I’m fast approaching. We’ve been living in a fabulous parsonage for 5 years now but we are overdue in having a place of our own in order to have a more secure nest egg. Our oldest son is also 14 now and if he stays the course of college, he will most likely be gone from us in four short years. I can barely stand to think about it. It would break my heart to think he couldn’t be with us for a while to enjoy it.
So, with that said, we are embarking on the scariest thing we’ve done in a very long time. At the risk of sounding sappy, it’s also very much a dream come true. I’ve had to work hard at not getting too invested in the idea because I’m one who fears something will fall through and then I’ll be devastated. It doesn’t seem so disappointing if you never let yourself get that excited to begin with. Isn’t that the lamest way to think? I’m ashamed of myself for being such a doubter! I’m just being honest. Maybe too honest. As hard as I’m trying to stay calm, now that the land is being cleared and the plans are complete, it’s hard not to cry and squeal and then cry some more.
But no, I’m not excited.
We’ve prayed so hard about whether this was the right timing and the Lord has affirmed every step so we can’t help but believe He has ordained this. Our next prayer is that our church doesn’t suddenly decide they hate us and kick us out. (Kidding, IBC. Please don’t get any ideas.) We love our ministry here, we love our town, we love our people, and if the Lord will allow it we hope to spend a great many years in this community. And if He doesn’t, well, we’ll have a house for sale. Ain’t like we haven’t done it before.
Here’s a couple of pictures of the place. The location is what I’d call a rural subdivision. We don’t have curbed cul-de-sacs in this part of God’s country and you can’t even imagine how happy that makes me.
1. Luke walking the back property line. This picture does something to me that I can’t quite explain. (“Hold me closer and I’ll feel no pain…” Name that tune!) You know that need a man has to love his family well and to feel he’s provided his best for them? Seeing my sweet husband of 20 years experiencing that is more than I can take in. This is way better than Colorado.
2. Toward the road from where the front porch will be…The mountain bluff is on the other side. You can see the light in the break of the trees.
3. The long and winding road. Or driveway.
4. Our left-side neighbors. We are bordered by a hundred acres of woods on the right. I wish you could hear how peaceful it is here. One car may pass per hour and the only sound is birds singing and the breeze rolling off the mountain. *sigh*
5. Luke and I decided to walk over to the bluff. For the record, I’m horrified of the bluff. Wouldn’t live on one if you paid me. Something about being able to fall out of your yard to your death doesn’t scream peace to me. I’m also a little scared of walking through the woods. Too much “I Shouldn’t Be Alive” will do that to a girl. (UPDATE: Luke just told me he looks like Saskwatch in this picture. Laughin’ my stinkin’ head off.)
6. The view is beautiful. You can see Lookout Mountain through the trees.
Well, that’s it for now. I’ll be posting plenty of pictures through the process whether you like it or not. Since I’m horrible at making decisions, I’ll probably be asking you everything from how we should finish the staircasing to what kind of light fixtures should be installed. Seriously, I’m crippled in the art of choosing forever things.
Except I did a pretty great job when I picked that man of mine.
It is beautiful! Praise the Lord for his blessings!
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That is beautiful! Enjoy it! And happy anniversary!
We celebrated our 20th at an 8th grade graduation ceremony. Not what we envisioned but special in its own way.
And I have a child graduating from college one month from today. Sigh. How did that happen??? You are right to think these years will fly…make lots of happy memories in your lovely new home.
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Beautiful setting. Enjoy what God is preparing for you.
Also, Happy Anniversary!!!
We spent our 10 year with a sick child, 20th year celebrating Christmas for the needy in our community and 25th at a Deacon Christmas party. It has now been 28 and the joys of celebrating serving others is what blesses us most.
The trip to Hawaii has not happened yet, maybe at 50? As God continues to bless us, our love for each other grows and our love for God’s people grows. All the rest is just stuff…
Enjoy every momemt with those precious children. They grow and go so fast, but it makes for new seasons and new challenges in our lives.
What a wonderful adventure! I remember when we left the parsonage for our own home! YIPEE for you. when you’re ready to get some new stuff…I’ll come down and we’ll go to IKEA… or a BETTER furniture store where you don’t have to super glue on top of the screws… LOL!!!!
SO happy for you and your fam.
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So happy for you! Building a house is one of my dreams too! The lot looks beautiful!!
Happy Anniversary to you both! Although my hubby and I have only been married 5 years I’m wondering what our future anniversaries will hold. Our 5th was spent with BOTH of us at the after hours urgent care coughing our lungs up! So romantic!
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So exciting. We built our own home 6 years ago, it’s what my husband does. It is scary but so special. Wish we lived much closer to you, I have an excellent (out-of-work) carpenter to recommend! :)
Many pictures please!
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Congratulations! SO excited for you.
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yeah for you guys!!
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I’m so excited for y’all!!! Just keep in mind that Dixie Salvage and The Home Depot are your friends (and tell Bro. Luke I have forgiven Lowe’s, but since I live pretty much halfway between Lowe’s and Home Depot, I choose Home Depot. My neighbor works there. She would kill me if I went anywhere else!). You will love it over there. Just don’t be alarmed if you see a black suv driving by very slowly every other weekend. That is our Sunday drive road. LOL
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WELL. You don’t have to be excited because I am SOOOOOOOOO excited for you!!!!! THat is amazing.
A few things—- one —don’t go visit my mom if you don’t like the bluff…..she’s on it. (it does freak me out a little with the kids though)
Two — if you do go on over to the bluff —- maybe you and mom could wave at each other…..
Three —- tell me where =)
CONGRATS!!!!! I’m so excited for you all.
BUt feeling a little materialistic since I am going on a cruise for my 10 year anniversary……if we can find grandparents willing to come stay with the kids.
And I’ve been to that zoo — I love it. Except not in August —WAY too hot to walk around out there!!!!
Hubs sister lives in Asheboro….
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Be still my happy heart!
I love it! I’m so very happy for you! I’d much rather build a house than do any of the adventurous ideas hubby and I have had for anniversary celebrations!
You are blessed!
Post all the pictures and ask all the questions you wish, sweet girl!
I’ll be here snooping around and dreaming with ya!
Congrats and Happy Anniversary!!
Of course, you know what this means, don’t you? You’ll have to be ready earlier on Sunday and can’t go dashing out the door 15 seconds before church starts!
I’m just sayin’. . . .
Lisa @ The Preacher's Wife Reply:
April 8th, 2010 at 5:59 pm
LOL…already thought about that Linda… We’ll be in trouble when I can’t send the kids across the yard in shifts..:)
Congratulations! We bought our house 2 and a half years ago, ending our parsonage living (my blog title predates that, obviously). Anywho, we love the “nest egg” aspect of owning our own place. We have privacy, which is sooooo good for the pastor-hubby. From the looks of it, you all will LOVE that place! Can’t wait to follow your journey!
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First things first-Congrats on 20 years! That is awesome!
Second-whooo hooo about the house. That to is awesome!
Can’t wait to see the pictures!
My prayer for you is that your new HOME will be a true reflection of the spiritual home you’ve built over these past 20 years. To God be the glory.
(And bring on the pictures. I’m not an HGTV addict for nothing.)
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You will love the house! Building is a trying experience but well worth the end result. Peole kept telling us we would end up divorced but when things didn’t go quite right we didn’t get at mad at one another. We got aggravated at the problem not each other! You guys will be the same way. It is alot of fun to watch it all come together! Good luck!
Lisa @ The Preacher's Wife Reply:
April 9th, 2010 at 8:13 am
Wouldn’t be so awesome if we ended up divorced. Luke really would lose his job. Then we could build a tent next to your ponds…lolol
Thank all of you for your sweet congratulations…!! :)
Congrats on the 20 yrs and the new house (coming soon)
The lot looks wonderful
My hubs and I talk about moving out to the country all the time
I think boys need woods and adventure
And I LOL when I saw at the comment from your husband – too funny!!
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Congratulations, Lisa!!! I know you are over the moon excited. My husband and I are patiently waiting for our time to come….peaceful country setting with room to spread out.
And, I must say, I feel closer to you already…your view of Lookout Mtn is not the same view I have of it everyday, but it is awesome to know that my online friend can see some of the same God created beauty that I can….only the other side/end of it.
Lisa @ The Preacher's Wife Reply:
April 9th, 2010 at 8:12 am
Awww, Michelle! That’s so sweet! Reminds me of that song, “Somewhere Out There…” :))
Beautiful! My husband and I are going to celebrate our 25th on 10-10-10! Cool huh?
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Congratulations! I couldn’t picture a more beautiful lot for a home! You have to promise to post more pictures soon!!
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Congratulations Lisa! I am very very excited for y’all!
I would start shopping the Clearance section at Lowe’s and Home Depot for lighting, fixtures and other things. Since you have time, just swing by whenever you get a chance– think endcaps. :) We found our chandelier (the one I wanted in the first place) for $26 and the light fixture for the boys’ bathroom for a mere $6. They are super nice, just clearanced to make room for new stuff on their shelves.
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How wonderful for you. I’m praying for you as you see this through.
It’s wonderful how God works things out.
Lisa I am beyond excited for yall! I can’t think of anyone who deserves these blessings more than your family! Yall do so much for us church folks, don’t be shy to ask of us when it gets time for painting and moving!!
Lisa – Happy Anniversary and Happy Home Building! I am so happy for BOTH of those and they really go together as you build that marriage your HOME will be the better for it! We went through the process just 2 years ago, but if you need any “older woman” advice – holler.
Our builder told me that I was the most cooperative and easiest woman he had ever worked with in building a home. I just purposed that I would ENJOY the process so much, counted my blessings, and realized that what type of hardware I selected for my kitchen cabinets would not matter in eternity.
Your heart just shines with love for your family and for Jesus! And the best joy is knowing that “we have a house not made with hands, eternal in the heavens!”
But until then…have fun and take lots of pictures!
Your friend, Jan
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I’m soo excited for you guys! Congratulations on the 20yrs! You guys are too cute together!
Can’t wait to see you and see how the plans and building goes!
Love you lots!
AWESOME! Such a beautiful piece of property! I know your just going to be so happy there! Congratulations!
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