Cute Shoes Online Discussion             ~ Week Three  (For Real This Time)

What can I say, you girls are fabulous!

It is impossible for me to express to you how much I want to reach through this screen and – as we say in the South – hug your necks! One of the key parts of identifying yourselves at the beginning of your comments is getting a really rounded impression of your personality in both life and ministry. The fact that most of you are challenged in the area of biblical sobriety endears me to you even more. Truly we were all separated at birth on that point!

I laughed out loud when Patricia shared about her ‘hanky covering’ for her skirt and the wiping off of her lipstick by a church mother. Forget sobriety, I’m afraid diabolical would have taken over my reaction on that one. Patricia, you are one precious woman for being so gracious for so long!

Amy – I particularly loved your sharing your hubby’s thrill at figuring out he could coordinate and execute a youth event on his own. You gave him room to prove he was worthy of respect which, interestingly enough, leads right into the topic of this week’s discussion: MINISTRY MARRIAGE!

There are many reasons I wrote this book but one of the main ones was to provide a proactive tool for all of us to be stronger, more confident women who are capable of shouldering the many pitfalls of ministry. Hear this: God called your man with your strengths in mind. He knew we could do this thing, now it’s time for us to know it, too! This is important because if we are falling apart at home, then that hubby of ours is going to have an awfully hard time focusing on the Kingdom Work for which he has been set apart.

With that in mind, let’s talk about the health of our marital relationships.

1. Give a brief State of Your Union. What word best characterizes the health of your marriage?

2. How have ministry-related pitfalls (*see pp.73-82 for common culprits) contributed to the strength and/or weakness of your relationship?

3. If you marriage is strong, please give a word of encouragement/advice to those who may be struggling. If yours is strained, please ask questions we can perhaps answer or feel free to share how this community can pray for you in this season.

4. What part of this chapter resonated with you most? A quote? An idea? A scripture?

Okay, girls, you know the drill! Sign in with name, area of ministry, age, and state. And if you are just joining us, it’s never too late to jump in on the discussions! Chime in at any time! If you still don’t have a copy of the book, there is a link in my sidebar with retail/online purchase locations.

Thank you again for sharing in this experience. It’s priceless!

Cute Shoes Online Discussion ~ Week Three

Hello Girls!

I will post the Discussion Questions for this week tonight. If you haven’t responded to Weeks One and Two, feel free to catch up while you are waiting! I’m LOVING walking through these chapters with you!

‘Cute Shoes’ Online Discussion                         ~ Week Two

Hello Girls! 

I had fully intended on having a couple of posts between last week’s discussion and this week’s for those of you who aren’t in the least bit interested in the subject.  Truth is I have been on a little computer fast in preparation for a conference I taught in Texas this weekend.  It was such a great time and I’ll tell you a bit more about that tomorrow, but today is Tuesday which means time for Week Two!

Your enthusiasm for this group has blown me away.  Mindy from Colorado, you are precious!  Freshly-called ministry wives, I wish I could hug each and every one of you!  Our little group is made up of girls from all over the US as well as Brazil, Canada, and Australia. (This is not a scientific observation so forgive me if I missed you!)  I am just so happy!  Can you tell?!  Do the exclamations give it away?!!!

I have absolutely loved reading through all your answers and learning that I’m not the only one who never dreamed she would end up a minister’s wife.  When I graduated from high school, I was determined to move to either New York or Chicago and live in one of those adorable brownstones.  I never wanted to get married and certainly didn’t want kids.  They got on my nerves.  Men and kids.  So to think the Lord plucked me as a brand from the fire (Zechariah 3), clothed me in righteousness, and then set me back down in a teeny town with a pastor husband and a house full of kids is hysterical to me.  Don’t dare ever tell me that God doesn’t have a sense of humor! (And wow, WHO KNEW so many of you were called of God to marry ministers as young women and then aligned your dating/marriage decisions to that call?  I’m SO praying that one over my little girl. )  I also cracked up at Patty’s tree-through-the-roof that caused her family to surrender to ministry.  Isn’t it just like God to pound us until we listen? 

I also appreciated your honesty when sharing which area of Sarah’s example resonated with you the most.  Trust is my big one too, y’all, but I can’t tell you one single time when God led us to a place where we found Him either absent or unfaithful.  The one who fills all space and time is there waiting for us to step into the place He has already prepared for us to occupy. 

You girls have no idea how I wish we could be sitting in a room together hashing this out face-to-face.  Unfortunately, that can’t happen today so let’s get on with the next questions from Chapter Two:  I Can Still Wear Cute Shoes!  This chapter head became the title for the book after much discussion between myself and the publisher.  I think for all of us, this imagery summed up the message of the book – I am safe being the me God created. 

Question One:  I shared in Chapter Two how I had a complete identity crisis when Luke was called to ministry and that it played out in my closet.  How did clothing play a part in your role as a minister’s wife?  Were you tempted to change your style?  Why or why not? 

Question Two:  Pages 51-57 speak about several character qualities that all Christian women should exhibit but perhaps more so the woman in servant leadership.  Which of these areas are more difficult for you to master?  (Winsome, Sober, Faithful, or the temptation to sometimes be Diabolical) 

Question Three:  Name one one specific area in which you feel intense pressure to be or do something contrary to your personal giftedness.   Please try to be concise with this question because I know it’s a biggy!


Can’t wait to meet back with you next week!  Remember to begin your answers with name, age, area of ministry, and state for identification.

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