Needed: A Vacation to Get Over Getting Ready for Vacation
When going on vacation, can I see any hands raised of those who breathe an enormous sigh of relief just to finally sink into the seat of the car ready to go? Anybody feeling me on the tizzing that goes on the during days leading up to getting out of town? Let me tell you, I am in high panic mode right now but instead of washing clothes and cleaning house like I should be doing, I figured I would sit down and play on the computer a bit.
Makes perfect sense, doesn’t it?
I did manage today to get the outside of my Suburban washed. I must confess however that it is simply a white-washed tomb. There may not be dead men’s bones inside, but I imagine you could find the remains of a bovine, chicken or potato wedged under the seats. The inside of my car is just gross right now and I’ve quit trying to apologize for it. One of my oldest son’s friends was over last weekend and I was making the ‘excuse the mess’ speech when this child spoke up and said, “Ms. Lisa, Don’t worry! You can’t even find a place to sit in our Suburban.”
Wow, I love that kid.
Which leads me to ask – doesn’t it make you feel great when you find out the women you thought had it all together actually don’t? That their house is a wreck, they eat at fast-food joints way too much, or their daughter has to wear her brother’s underwear because all hers are dirty? (Don’t ask me how I know these things – just take a sistah at her word, okay?)
I had a friend a few years back who was perfection. Her car was spotless. She had the monogrammed diaper bag with no dirty diapers zipped up inside and her baby’s carseat had no crumbs. Her older daughter’s hairbows always matched the outfit which matched the socks which matched the shoes. You could eat off the floors of her house.
I was mortified on a field trip day when she suggested we ride together and I could drive.
*gulp* “Ride with me?”
Ya’ll, my car looked like a bomb went off inside but I made my apologies, cleared out the front seat and tried to keep her looking at me instead of the piles of stuff in the back.
I felt compelled to ask her, “How do you keep it all together? I mean, you have a family and a real job. How do you do it all?”
To which she burst into a thousand tears. “I drive myself crazy trying to be perfect because I want everyone to think I’ve got it all under control. The truth is, I’m miserable.”
I can not even tell you what a sweet time we had talking that thing out in the Lord. I felt much better about my mess and I hope she learned to let go just a bit.
So I guess in all this rambling what I’m trying to say is, “It’s okay.” Okay not to be perfect. Okay to let some things go. If you are currently a mom in the trenches, this season only passes once and there will be a time when the house stays clean and you can scarce come up with enough dirty clothes to make a load. And I’m willing to bet we’ll miss our mess-making little ones like crazy. I’d also be safe to suppose when someone seems perfect, they’ve put themselves through a lot of anguish to maintain it. In my estimation, you can’t be perfect and happy, too. (Please remember I’m speaking in generalities, girls. If you are a happy perfectionist, blessings all over you…!)
I suppose my ministry is to be the girl who makes everyone else feel better about themselves by giving you lots to live down to..:)) And you know what?
I’m perfectly happy with that.
With all that said, I’m off for a week to Florida with my fabulous husband and two best friends, Chuck and Deb. The grandparents are coming to stay with the kids which is a blessing I can’t even begin to communicate. We plan on doing nothing at the beach but eat, lay in the sun, laugh, and eat some more. A time of refreshment is much needed so if I could ask for a prayer, it would be that all four of us would be rejuvenated as Elijah and come back home ready to outrun a chariot with the energy of the spiritual food I know we will receive. In the meantime, ya’ll hold the fort down, okay??
Can’t wait to tell you all about our adventures when I return! :)
Don’t forget to enter Beth Moore’s ‘Loving Well’ GiveAway!
Have a fantastic time Lisa, chill out, eat lots and enjoy the precious company you’ll be keeping! Lots of love, Del x
PS. I’m having a girl!! Yey!
Have a wonderful trip!
Oh Lisa, I needed to read this today. Let me tell you, what I thought would get better as my kids aged, is only a joke. Teenage boys are far worse than younger boys. BUT I refuse to let myself be down about messes…I, too, love to find those people who don’t always live in perfection.
And trust me, when you live in your car half the time, it’s no joy there either.
Hugs to you for sharing this story.
Have a blast! We will miss you in the blog world and pray you have a refreshing time! We look forward to hearing all about it. I get some of the sweetest times with Jesus on the beach in the early morning! Enjoy!
Thank you for helping me feel normal about my life! Enjoy your vacation! I will miss reading your blog, but look forward to hearing about your adventures.
Tammy in MN
My husband and I just firmed up some details for a week-long getaway trip (not until May but we had to be sure that the grandparents are available to babysit and get on their calendar). I am so excited just thinking about it!! It’s also a beach trip, to a wonderful island we visited almost 10 years ago, and it was so relaxing.
On another note–you are so generous. I gave away the tote bag from my Loving Well kit, but I thought that some small churches around here might be able to use it. I might figure out a way to lend it out to the internets.
Hope you are already having a good time on your vacation. I will surely miss your lovely face at church this morning. Tell us all about it when you return.
This is exactly why I park at the far end of the parking lot at church praying no one walks beside it and looks in!!!! Now I don’t feel quite so bad!!!! LOL
Have a great time on your trip and be ready to rock out to Casting Crowns when you get back!!!!
Yay, I am normal! ;) I only have one son, who is 16 mths old and I sometimes wonder how someone so small can make so many messes. I often feel like I’m running in circles because as I’m scrubbing the tub he’s emptying everything from the bathroom drawers! So, once I’m finsished I have more to clean than I did before I started! I’ve learned that it’s ok though. I try to take seriously the comments like, ‘They grow up so fast!’ and ‘Cherish them while they are little!’. It’s true but sometimes when we are in the moment we forget!
Thanks for your honesty!! Have a great vacation!
We just got back from Florida. Have fun! Watch out for sharks, sting-rays and red tide. Other than that have fun!
Why would you want to come to FL? LOL.
Spoken like a real Floridian:)
I hope you enjoy your time here.
Avoid Bike Week. Trust me.
You sound so much like me right before we leave for a vaction I hit panic mode until we finally leave our home.and as for the car I only have one 6 year old and you should see the cultter I have in the back of my SUV, and as soon as I clean it I lay down the law again its going to stay clean these time or elase!! but that only last about 2 days,, later its the same way.I feel the same way about my home I clean ,wash,pick up toys, make the beds,you get the idea for what just to stat all over again the next day,sometimes I just feel like I have had it and let it all go.Ladies we have the hardest job in the world and those of you who work and clean my hat goes off to you its so hard keeping up.I am still wanting for Mrs.Jetson maid to come out so I can buy her. LOL.marina PS. have a nice time!!!
Enjoy! Bring home tons of crumbs!
I am that sistah that drives herself crazy trying to make everything perfect. I feel so much better when everything is in it’s place. But, with 2 little people (9 & 5) it’s oh. so. hard.
God is working on me though and I am slowing relinquishing the control. (Old habits die hard!)
Thanks for the encouragement! So glad I found your site.
Sistah, you just saved me from embarrassment. I have been SO ready to post some pictures of the inside of my “lovely” home lately thinking that it would “motivate” me to get to work! I am SO happy to finally hear I am not alone! I did just recently clean out the car and it feels great, but I have to admit that it IS much smaller than the house!
Have a wonderful, restful, memory-chock-full trip!!
Praying for beautiful weather and fun times!
You’re going to have an amazing time! I’m looking forward to your photos.
BTW, I really appreciated your response to my question about being a preacher’s wife. You inspired a blog post! When you’re all unpacked… take a look here, Christian Ministry Wives: Five Myths.
We are planning a trip to PCB next week. We can’t afford to go during the season, lol.
I was raised to be perfect. I had a mom that didn’t and sometimes doesn’t now expect anything but her way, which is the best way of ocurse. Top that with being raised mormon, oh my. The problem with being raised to be perfect is I have an ingrained lazy streak a mile wide! That is something I am still battling to this day. So, I understand the bondages of perfection, and am slowly breaking away from them! Praise the Lord!
This is the very subject I spoke at at MOPS. If ONLY someone could have convinced me to let go of some of those ideals I held when my kids were little!
Loved the post….have a great time!
I said a prayer for you and your hubby, your friends, and your trip.
Take care and have a great time!
Girl…I couldn’t let you miss the jewelry give-away at BooMama’s blog. So, I entered your name since you are out of town! I just felt extremely compelled to do so! Call it what you want…a kind gesture…a moving of the Spirit…either way…I hope you win!
Here’s the link: http://boomama.net/?p=1728
I can TOTALLY relate! My car is a pit… plain and simple. Nast-ay. I like your take on it… giving everyone else something to live down to. LOL
Have a wonderful vacation! I’m nigh unto covetousness right now. But you have fun! :)
Lisa Im not sure where you live
Im praying its far away from the fires
please take care
praying for ypu
Enjoy your time away in Florida! I’m one of those who never thought she’d survive the chaotic messes…and now find myself missing those times once in a awhile hoping the girl will come home with her laundry so I will have a full load and not feel like I am wasting water doing a small load! Love it!
Hey I’m right there with you sister! Thanks for the encouragement. I think there are so many of us out there who are afraid of showing the “perfect people” who we are b/c we feel so bad about it. What a lie!!!!! Hope your vacation is breath-restoring. : )
Your post has me laughing. All to often I put friends on pedestals as they seem to have it so together. One of my dearest friends who probably has it together better than anyone I know answered the door and she had some kind of facial mask on. I don’t know why but I let out a sigh of relief just knowing she needed a facial to keep her skin so perfect looking.
One thing I started doing when traveling is washing my car when I get to my destination. It always gets dirty along the way so when I get to wherever, I run it through a car wash.
And yes, getting ready for a vacation is exhausting at times…
Hugs to you!
thank you so much for reminding us….that we are not perfect!
I hope when you return you will come over to receive your Friday Fuzzy!
I know you are a Casting Crowns fan, and I just went to their concert (front row)… I have posted some pictures on my site if you would like to see them… Blessings
Ive tagged you
I laughed out loud at the crumbs in the carseat, Lisa. Too true! And how amazing your friend confessed to you that striving to be perfect made her miserable. Trust me. I understand. I’m striving to NOT give the impression that I’m striving to be perfect, if that makes any sense. Which it doesn’t. LOL
I hope you’re enjoying your vacation. And your Beth Moore giveaway is a huge success. Good grief. Chelle sent me this over a month ago and I’ve yet to do my review. I guess I’m succeeding better than I thought at not being perfect and having my act together. I need to get busy on this. I plan to give my kit away too. :-)