Not Your Jesus
We look for perfect faithfulness from people and that is the last place it will ever be found.
There.
I said it.
I was supposed to share that one simple thing Sunday morning – in front of the church people. I know this because as I prayed God impressed this thought on me so heavily it took my breath. First, I was afraid our Southern Baptist congregation would think I had gone all co-pastor on them. Ultimately however, I second-guessed myself into believing this was just one of my own random thoughts so I held my tongue.
And He hasn’t let me forget about it yet.
I thought a little more about how that could apply to me personally. I’ve been guilty of making someone a god who never wanted to be. Of depending on their obedience (or lack of it) to justify my own . Of trying harder to please a person than Christ – in essence making them an idol. (Any NOG girls out there?) There have been other times when I’ve been the person of whom too much was expected. Goodness knows if anyone is looking at me for a model of godliness, they’ll be sorely disappointed by the end of the day. I’ve also resented when I’ve been forcefully placed on a pedestal and then criticized when I fell from it. And then, worst of all, is when I have spent too much time trying to tweeze a splinter out of someone else’s eye when I had a telephone pole flopping around in my own because I wanted to make them better when they weren’t the one who needed fixing.
So practically what does this mean?
Girls, it’s time we worry about our own faithfulness instead of someone else’s. That we use the time we are complaining about other’s issues to get our own junk together. That we stop looking horizontally for perfection when we’ll only find it when our eyes are to the sky. Let’s ask ourselves: What if the person whose faithfulness we are questioning is looking back at ours? Could they be just as disillusioned?
(That was a right hook to my chin, girls. Truly, I’m beating myself up here.)
The point? There’s only one Jesus. Only one who is Perfect. Only one who will never let us down. Only one who can be fully relied upon no matter what the circumstance. Let’s cling to the hem of His robe and let everyone else in our lives off the hook for not taking care of us – or themselves – like only He can.
We’ll lead far less disappointing lives. Shoot, we may even get some joy back when we stop expecting a mere mortal to be our Jesus.
Can I get a witness?
“It is better to take refuge in the LORD than to trust in man.” ~Psalm 118:8
Excellent post! I’ve been guilty of this. Thanks for the encouragement.
Bring it, girl. I’m a NOG gal, too. This is something I struggle with daily. Not necessarily with looking at THINGS as my god, but I’m definitely guilty of looking at people as being my god. I’m guilty x 1000. I put people on pedestals and get disappointed every single time. It’s so good to know that my Jesus never disappoints. Ever.
Praise His name.
I heart you. Thanks for this post.
Oh, if we (I) would do this daily! We place unfair burdens on the shoulders of others.
He alone is Holy.
Amen, Sister.
Girl, your obedience in speaking about this just totally ministered to a current situation I’m facing in a HUGE way. Thank you for sharing those sweet words of truth.
Amen sister! I hear you loud and clear. I’m so guilty of this — putting people up on pedestals and then kicking them off.
Why do I expect much, when I can’t be faithful with a little?
Lisa, this specific situation is one that I struggle with — ’cause I love me some friends and I’m guilty of putting in the wrong places in my life.
So, here’s your pedestal placing witness who submits her life daily to her walk with Jesus.
I also try to remind myself that I’ve been forgiven so much and blessed so much, how can I not forgive someone.
Excellent post!
Ruth Bell Graham once said the same thing about wives expecting their husbands to be their perfect everything– something that only Jesus can be.
While I don’t comment very much on your blog, I always look forward to reading it– like sunsine on a rainy day! :-)
Oh girl, you rock.
And you are so, so far from Victoria. I mean, you don’t even bleach your hair. Or teeth. And your husband *still* hasn’t made you his co-pastor, what’s up with that?!! Cuz you just preached a word, sister.
love you.
Lisa, I am going to talk with my womens ministry coordinator and see about having you come speak at a ladies night out or something. Just a fresh word…I know that is how you are anyway. Let’s be praying about it.
my church is http://www.hsbc.org
Ouch!
That was something I needed to read.
Your words are always such a blessing (even when it may be painful). Thanks!
Even though I felt a sting reading this (cause I’m guilty too) I still have to say AMEN. Sometimes we need a reminder that people are simply that.
This reminds me how I used to tell the girls in Bible study…when you walk in the door of the church (or anywhere, but especially the church) don’t think to yourself, “who will talk to me today…etc” -instead walk in with the attitude, I’m going to be a blessing! I’m not looking for a blessing, I’m going to be one today! I’m going to greet and encourage every one I can.
Life is so much better when we focus on what we can do and not on what others are not doing.
I needed this post this morning. This especially:What if the person whose faithfulness we are questioning is looking back at ours? Could they be just as disillusioned? will help me sleep tonight! This seems to be a constant lesson in my life . . . every believer . . . making Christ our Everything.
Oh what a good word!!!
It amazes me how women look to others to fill their emotional needs but then get disappointed when their expectations aren’t met!
When Jesus is all you’ve got that’s when you’ll realize that He’s all you need!
Love you!
Knew you might get a comment or two, (of course anonymous) on the Victoria thing. I love you and appreciate you putting me in my place. I tell others that they are only responsible for their relationship with Christ but I do the same thing in looking at their faithfulness. Thanks again!
Thanks for telling the truth. I needed to hear this and will be thinking on it today.
really, REAllY loved this one. Especially this: “Ultimately however, I second-guessed myself into believing this was just one of my own random thoughts so I held my tongue.
And He hasn’t let me forget about it yet.”
Boy, do I relate!
NOG on, sista! (oh how lame was that but it was fun to type! Imagine that you were being flashed a NOG gang sign at the time.)
I am so guilty of placing others as a little “g” god in my life.
Thanks for the great reminder.
Ooooh, I needed that! Thanks for the reminder!
Good post!
thanks, lisa. great post.
i’ve been reading martha peace’s book “the excellent wife” and thinking about that question you asked awhile back. you asked about manipulation, and if it ever made us resent the thing we used it to obtain. well, in chapter 7 of this book she addresses idolatry. “A primary clue to recognize that a heart’s desire has become an idol is that the wife is willing to sin in order to attain that desire.” ouch! she listed things like “well behaved children,” “having your needs met,” and “your husbands affection” as common idols. i have manipulated, rebelled, and thrown big fits to obtain all of those things!
You get an “Amen, sistah” from me,too.
Also, I’m reading No Other Gods right now, so this is right up my alley.
Thanks!
Diane
What a great post! I often have to remind myself that God is ALWAYS faithful, even when I slip.
That was a slap in the face, but a much needed one. Great post!
Great, great words, my friend. Why don’t we cut people any slack? I’m sure people who see my comments get tired of hearing me say “Christians are the only ones who shoot their own wounded.” We put people on the pedestal and then are horrified when they fall off.
And I am guilty as charged!
YOU TALKIN TO ME???
Why, yes…you are!
A message just for me….preach it sistah!
Great post!
Amen my friend…keep it comin’!!
Powerful Word my friend! I think all of us have been on both sides. Such a timely reminder for all of us and bless you for having the guts to share it today.
I have a feeling you have another chance to share that at your church . ;)
Love you,
Patty
preach it sistah Oste… I mean Lisa!
Hubby and I are speaking at a marriage retreat this weekend and next month… and this is so vital in marriages, too.
I probably quote you about the flopping telephone pole!
This is so relevant in my life as well as many others commenting. I need to hear that today!
It is easy to look at others sometimes when we are trying to divert the attention off our self sometimes! Thank you! Thank you for always having something that makes me think and brightens my day!
Just wondering if you HAD shared this at church – would you have shared same Word here?
Just excellent and dead on. Thanks for your obedience.
Love how He’s in those details- down to your side bar scripture, makes me all warm and fuzzy :)
When I have more time to fully soak in what you’ve written, I will do so. I wanted to tell you that this same theme is something God is working on in my life.
We’ve just finished The Vision of His Glory and in the last Chapter of Revelations, John falls down and starts to worship and angel, who is totally appalled (my word not the Bible’s) that John would do such a thing when John should know that an angel worships Jesus just as John does and that no one is worthy of the praise and worship but Jesus (and our Father, but I hope you are getting my drift here). Anyway, all of that struck me because I have a bad way of lifting people up and putting them on a pedastal where they just don’t belong, and darnit they almost always fall anyway! *sigh* He’s been showing me that only He is worthy of being worshipped and praised and not a mere mortal…
Ok, I’ve said enough…
I’m finding my joy is in the LORD and the LORD alone.He will never disappoint me or let me down
Yes, yes, yes, and amen. “Trust ME,” is the enemy’s favorite, deceitful phrase.
Well, thanks a lot! ;) You’ve just been the tool God used to repeat Himself. And you know, when God repeats Himslef you’d better listen up! Keep preachin’ sister! Oh, excuse me… I’m a Baptist too and good Baptist women don’t preach do they? Well, keep on TEACHIN’ sister! ;) Love your spunk!
Every Christian on the planet needed to hear that! Amen and amen!
Xandra
You are so right. I’ve been guilty before of not only putting other people on pedestals, but also trying to climb up there myself! What a bad idea.
Also, as we look to Jesus as the only perfect One, it makes us want to be more like Him…instead of evaluating ourselves over and over, striving to be more like somebody else we see succeeding spiritually or in other areas. (Guilty of that one, too.)
I knew that I was missing a pair of shoes, you were walking in them! I have been placed on a pedestal myself and fell fast and hard but the placers are no where to be found. Hmmmm, fair weather or seasonal friends??? Maybe neither, perhaps they are now struggling with their own faithfulness. Thanks for the reminder for both.
It fits with what I wrote today on the Man of Sorrows, we should share in His sufferings and this is one of those. http://racheleposey.blogspot.com/2008/10/man-of-sorrows-our-blessed-jesus.html
Chel
I love the telephone pole comment! Thanks for the reminder!
Amen, sista!
Oh Lisa.
This is right where God has been dealing with me. I have very recently read NOG and it was needed.
Love you friend. So happy that you shared.
This was AWESOME!!
I also loved what Sue said about trying to be a blessing instead of looking for someone to bring it to you. I had a situation this week that had me upset and I wanted to pout about it and be mad. God said, deal with it and deal with it in a loving way. I called the person up and told them that I loved them and that if ever they needed me I would be there. Come to find out this person was dealing was something pretty big. Thank you Jesus!
Thank you for this post, it is a great reminder.
Amen, sister! Such a great word that all of us need to be reminded of so often. :)
So, thank you for the reminder!
Love you!
Linds
Oh, girl. Guilty here too! Thank you for the reminder, and know how much I appreciate your words!
O.K. convicted, but may I say one thing?! Is that right to ask after conviction has been noted! I do not expect people to be like Christ, heaven knows we can’t, because he alone is the perfect one, but what about standing by your commitment? This is speaking solely from the Director of Children’s Ministries who continuiously has people who make a commitment and then do not follow through! Sorry that just sneaked out!!!!
Lisa,
It’s been awhile since I posted, I’ve been really busy getting ready for the next ladies event at my church. Thank you for this post. We do get so caught up in these sorts of things sometimes, and then, before you know, our “junk” is in a complete mess. That was a great “Word” you gave us!
Hope you have a great week!
Bridgette
Just keep speaking the truth in love, as you do so well! Yes, NOG sister here and I was guilty of this very recently. I asked a friend to pray for me over the plank of pride in my own eye. Thank you, Lisa, for always giving us a good word to read with a purpose for pointing us to the One and Only!
I saw so many references to NOG in the comments that I had to go check it out and got lost there for too much time that I didn’t have. :)
I have loved my browse and the encouragement, and the bit of toe stepping that you did so eloquently. Over from PR31.
Have mercy! If that isn’t a word from the Lord, I don’t know what is!!!! :)
Wow. Really…just hardly even know what to say. You said it all! And I thank you for the ache in my jaw. That’s quite a right hook you’ve got there. :)
Blessings and congrats! I’m gonna go put some ice on my face now…okay, and maybe do some prayin’, too! :)
Thank you SO much for this word! I have been wrestling around with this very issue (as well as some others) for quite some time now! Thanks again!
Amen, amen, amen! And congrats on your Proverbs 31 win!
Warmly,
Lora
Excellent post and a timely reminder for me. Thanks for sharing your heart! Wanted to drop by and congratulate you on being chosen by Lysa. I look forward to seeing how the P31 team uses your blog. BTW – your profile pic is GREAT! :-) Sweet blessings, Amy in OR